ESCAPE FROM WHAT YOU WANT MOST

We are the most desirous of creatures.  Our ability to plan, postulate and proselytize, leads us beyond the daily needs of what we consider survival.  We balance the noise of tumultuous desires that clamour for primacy.  One list topping noise after another.  Some are acquired and become part of a play list that drones and fades into the next new noise.  Its easy to suggest that freedom from desire exists in the reality of knowing the intrinsic nature of a thing and its role in our life.  Things are easy.  The desire for the objects of technology and social milieu speed by and are easily left behind.  Watching others run to catch these things is an exercise of supreme pleasure and a small victory.  Those things extracurricular to our true needs are most difficult.  They are confused with real need because they are surrogates for the real: money, promotion, accolades, position.  We will hoc our lives to these ends, in a spiraling pursuit that all to often ends with the same nonsatisfaction and realization of falsehood.  The oddity of our lives is that we include the most valued and authentic of our desires in that same list of surrogates.  We even objectify this desire when linked with a person.  Here then is the crux of our problem, that which we desire most is love and to be loved.  This does not require another to support desire, just a healthy understanding of self and our role in the universe.  Sought for in the arms of another merely simplifies and cheapens the gift of true love.  Romantic love is a social construct perpetrated by philosophical poets who indulge in excess.  Chemical love overrides our senses and fuels that same perpetual cycle of object seeking behavior to fulfill what we think the other needs or wants.  The most difficult of first concerns is not how to escape desire but how to sidestep our humanity.  The next, how to avoid the social constructs that seek to ensnare us into a desirous cycle of self-defeating behaviors that have nothing to do with our need.  As it is impossible to step away from our humanity, we must embrace it.  Our social capacity does not require an object, merely the understanding and acceptance of our inheritance.  When we can see another as our self, when we see ourselves in a body of population that is the same self, same mind and same spirit, we become fully human with the capacity for true love.  While we rush to embrace our humanity, we run from the social constructs that are divisive and seek to inform us with falsehoods and abuses.  Impossible is the task of tearing away the bloody mess that society creates to cover our humanity.  Knee jerk reactions to this offer, asceticism, going off the grid, religious sequestering, drug induced escapism and the worst, denial.  Society is a human construct.  The life it has taken on, the multi headed hydra, moves and breathes on its own and we are swept up and carried in the flood of products and information.  As we accept our humanity, we accept our inheritance, only then does the deluge of society begin to lessen the weight on our backs.  Now, desire.  Our seeking to rid ourselves of it, is a desire.  Our want of acceptance, our seeking to understand, are desirous in nature.  These are tantamount to wishes, synonymous with lust, having an heir of the unrealizable.  Our only hope is in understanding that desire, as we know it, is also a human construct, born of our covetous nature, part of an egocentric nature that is difficult to step away from.  Problem solved.  Our selfishness is our downfall.  When we step to our humanity, we step away from that part of ourselves that feeds the hunger of our desires.  So then, you are no longer what I desire.  I no longer see you as an object of desire.  I no longer partake in what society feeds me about how I should feel about you.  I release you from the emotional and mental bonds that originate with the battleship chains in which I have wrapped myself for so long.  Does this allow me true escape?  Is this the freedom I seek?  Is this truly the clarity of mind our maker meant us to achieve?